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Baltimore County Family Lawyer Discusses Divorce Preparation.

Written by Amar Weisman » September 20, 2016 »

Are you considering a divorce? You probably know whether the handwriting is on the wall. Even if your marriage is failing, are you ready for the divorce process and everything it involves? Deciding when to stay or leave is difficult, and as a Baltimore County divorce lawyer I urge you to consider the topic carefully.

When considering divorce in Towson, three scenarios might be running through your mind--

  • You want a divorce, but you aren’t quite sure if divorce is the right thing to do, given the circumstances.
  • You actually do not want the divorce, but rather your spouse is pressing you for it.
  • Your marriage simply is not working, which is the only reason you want the divorce in the first place.

All three of these scenarios have one key aspect in common -- fear. Still, for those seeking a more collaborative divorce, it is important for everything to be put out on the table for both parties to deal with accordingly. Consider the following questions as you determine whether or not you’re truly ready for divorce.

Are You Making This Decision Solely in Reaction to Something That Happened?

All too often, individuals make hasty decisions purely based on their emotions at the time something occurs. When acted upon, such decisions ultimately do nothing to resolve the true underlying issue. Divorce requires both parties to be able to let go of the emotional attachments, good and bad.

Do You Have an Agenda in Wanting the Divorce?

If your intent is to achieve something other than simply ending your marriage, then that may be a sign that you are not truly ready for a divorce. For instance, some individuals may think that suggesting a divorce will get the other spouse to “act right” and come to a sudden realization about how much he or she really does love you. However, if that is your agenda, then you are seeking a divorce for the wrong reasons. Divorce only has one function, which is to end the marriage. It cannot change a person’s heart or mind, nor can it right any past wrongs.

Are You Making an Idle Threat or Are Your Really Ready for a Towson Divorce?

Many couples use the threat of divorce, particularly in arguments, as a way to gain some level of control over a spouse or as a so-called “wake up call” for the spouse. Those who are really ready for divorce will be able to come to grips with the fact that they no longer want to be in the marriage and they can hold a serious conversation with the spouse about those feelings. Repeated threats will ultimately not be taken seriously.

Divorce changes lives in a variety of ways, which is why the decision should never be made lightly. Only those seeking to end the marriage can truly say whether or not they are ready to divorce. If it is determined that divorce is the only option, it is important for the parties to learn as much as possible about the process and what they can expect to happen next. Contact a skilled divorce attorney at the Law Offices of Amar Weisman, LLC today to discuss your options.

Call (410) 321-4994 For a Free Consultation With a Towson Divorce Attorney.

Call The Law Offices of Amar S. Weisman at (410) 321-4994 to schedule a Free Consultation. The Purpose of the consultation is to determine whether you want to retain this law firm as your Baltimore County & Harford County Family Lawyer. If you do wish to proceed, then you must pay a retainer. See Our Policy on Fees and Costs. The family firm is located next to The Circuit Court for Baltimore County, at 1018 Dulaney Valley Road, Towson, MD 21204.